So finally I have an answer to my dreadful sickness during this pregnancy. Hypermesis Guarvemarn. I have a more mild form of it so I don't need to be hospitalized, but still have needed to go get fluids and they said I will most likely have to go back again for more. ( fingers crossed that I wont)
Throughout my pregnancy so far I have tried to share with some friends how terrible I'm feeling to see if anyone has had it before, or known of someone. I have been directed to the few who have had severe morning sickness in pregnancy, some with Hypermesis, and others with other problems during pregnancy and it's been helpful! That with the exception of the few who have said that they thought/think that I'm lying about being sick, or that I was just finding something online and saying I had it lol. When none has been the case. Yes I am over the toilet vomiting at least 2ce within a hour at any given time of the day, Yes it feels like i have the flu and food poisoning at the same time. No nothing I do seems to help, no medications or food or how i eat or take them seems to work. And finally- A doctor diagnosed me, I have written proof!
Finding out that I have this has of course caused me to look up more about it and to learn more. ( if you would like to learn more go to http://www.helpher.org/ ) Through everything I have found, I have read of many woman who end up having abortions due to this condition. For my friends who have experienced slight morning sickness, this is nothing near to it. For those who suffer from the sever form it can be extremely harmful both emotionally and physically. Something taken from the question and answer section i have found to be how I feel people have been treating me.
"5. She says she is really sick, but I don't see other pregnant women this sick? Is she exaggerating?
First of all, understand that she is really sick and no one except those who have had HG will truly understand what she is experiencing. You may have a better idea if you imagine having food poisoning for weeks (or months). Most people know how miserable and exhausting just a day or two of that is. Also, keep in mind that women become isolated due to being so ill, and may become depressed (PDF) and/or anxious, especially if HG lasts beyond mid—pregnancy or is very severe. This is not uncommon and not her fault. If she feels depressed, talk to her and her doctor about medication or try natural homeopathic remedies. Some medications have been researched for use during pregnancy after the first trimester."
This is so true. As I said I do not have the severe form, but my form is enough for most woman to fall into a severe depression alone, and frankly it's hard not to. Not only do you have all of these hormones surging through your body growing your beautiful little baby, but your alone all the time. And let me tell you, many times the past week or two I have forgotten that I was even pregnant that I've been so sick. And yes, already I am double thinking about extending our family even further from one child because it is so miserable to deal with. I don't know about anyone else but when I feel like i'm going to be sick I don't want to be around others, not even my husband most times. So having this can really seclude you. I thought with being very sick that I'd have friends calling or coming over to see how I was, but most of my friends thought that it was best to leave me alone and not call or text me. Don't get me wrong, some times I couldn't text or call them back even if i wanted to but feeling depressed and having no one call or communicate with you makes it worse. I have an amazing family who has been there to support me and make sure I am okay which has been very helpful, but they can only make calls they can't be here with us/me to help out. And when your this sick, house work does not get done. My husband gets home late and by the time he is home I'm so needy for him to help me do other things that literally nothing gets done. We have mold on our dishes, dirty laundry hampers full and over flowing, carpets that badly needed swept and bathrooms that badly need cleaning. Having a messy house makes it worse, especially when you can do nothing to keep it clean without vomiting or wanting to pass out.
Another hard aspect of having this is my husbands job. Every few days he is gone for 24 hours or longer. I can never have the car most times ( not that I could drive) but when he is gone those days I am here all alone with the dog. It's nice when I'm tired, but when i have that hour where i feel better it's awfully lonely. I don't feel like getting dressed, I don't want to get a shower... and just getting a shower can be a huge event. I started blacking out in the shower yesterday, and by the time i was done i was so exhausted that I literally felt like I had hiked a 5 mile trail. I collapsed on the bed still dripping wet trying to stay conscious when my husband called from work to see how I was. ( and ended up coming home to take me to the ER)
What I'm getting to is, when someone is pregnant, and they are very sick to the point that you don't hear from them don't judge that they are being " wimps" and need to suck it up. Hypermesis guarvemarn is very serious and should not be side glanced, and if you think that someone you know or you may have it please let your doctor know.
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