hm..

I feel like the Navy has done so many things to R and I's lives. We are doing things, having things, lacking thing, missing things, things that we would never be if it were not for the Navy. It's pretty equal as far as the good and bad. The people you meet can change your life for good, or for bad. Sadly in that area we have found that most people we have met along this journey have hindered our views of things. They have lied, faked, and been people to us who they were really not. That's been a really frustrating thing for me lately. Looking back on all of the people that were good to us, and our friends and to be separated from them now only to see that the ones who have hurt us are almost the only ones left.
I don't know about every one else, but if someone lies or does something to me, I am most likely not going to move on and let them into my family again. I understand everyone messes up, but i mean like the people who lie straight to your face and 2 days later forget that they lied to you and say something else. I will most likely try to give that person a second chance, but most times a 2nd chance has turned out to leave me more of a dummy in the end and me more hurt because thats just how they are and they did it all over again. I mean I'm all for forgiving people, but i'm not going to blindly trust them in that area again. So needless to say I do hold my guard up a little. But my question thought of the day is.. when do you stop holding up your guard and just take a chance on people when you have been so hurt in the past? I mean, when you are friends with someone for years , tell them all your secrets, and they turn around and bite you in the butt... what do you do? Do you give up all of those years and what you thought were good memories? Or is that too much to just loose in a week ?
My other thought is this. Have you ever had someone do something completely terrible to you, but they have no idea you know? Something that irks you to the bone but they have absolutely no idea that you have caught them in that lie? I've had that happen a few times- and it's really hard. I have confronted the person before and just been like.. " look I know you did this and it hurt me but i'm done with it and we can move on. I just wanted to let you know that I'm aware of what you did. " And in some cases things will be fine and the person moves on just like you and it's like it never happened. I have also had a instance where I confronted the friend and they back lashed at me. Telling me that i'm not worth it to tell the truth to, and they can trash me as much as they want because i'm not worth enough to be their friend. It's things like that that make me scared as to what to do.


The military wife life makes it hard to make good friends, and when you do make those good friends you need to hold on as tight as you can. Those are the friends that in 10 years will still be there for you even though you may have never seen them in those past 10 years. I just wish people came with a label that said, " yes I am a liar." Or " yes i am a faker" If your going to lie.. or be a faker, at least be really good at it.